Why am I so emotional lately?
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Why am I so emotional?
I used to never cry. I used to be known for my stolid attitude and even my ferocity. I could go from zero to physical in two seconds and wouldn't hesitate to take a shot at someone screwy.
Now I cry at commercial segments. By the time last verse of "The Phantom of the Opera" comes around, I've already gone through half a box of tissues. I run out and go for the toilet paper roll. I can just sit by myself, think about something terrible, and start to cry. My boyfriend gave me a teddy bear, and I started to cry uncontrollably because I thought about all the children in the world who don't have teddy bears.
Not only that, but it seems like all of my emotions are more extreme than before. My laughing fits can last forever, even though I know I'm laughing at something that's really not that funny; strangers will come up and ask if I'm okay. If someone makes a statement and part of it can be remotely construed as offensive, then I will take it the wrong way and go running with it; it will take forever for my funk to fade. I'm almost stubborn about it. It's a little embarrassing and often frustrating, but I feel like there's no way I can stop.
There are a couple of reasons I feel my hormones are out of control. For one, my birth control pills are just being ridiculous. I know they're not good for me, but hey, you have to prioritize sometimes.
I try not to use the period excuse, especially around my male acquaintances, but seriously, it's hard to deny sometimes.
Here's the one reason that might totally be wrong but that I've been suspecting for months: too much soy. They say soy contains isoflavones that are phytoestrogens, and can even replace estrogen in cells... that's why it is encouraged that men do not ingest too much of the stuff (man-boobs?). My boyfriend tries not to eat my soy ice cream with me.
Estrogen can a strong effect on the way women feel and think, impacting mood and mental health. It can affect how well women recover from depression, menopause, and other conditions, not to mention bodily functions.
And I do love soy. I love soy milk, soy ice cream, tofu, soy cereal, and even soy meats. I think it tastes great and can be a healthier alternative, but maybe I've eaten too much of the stuff. Too much to go back.
Maybe I'll go cry about it.
Additonal resources
- The Soy Story
How soy can affect your health - Soy and Estrogen Dominance
anti-aging resources can be found at LamMD.com, with information on menopause, cholesterol, high blood pressure, and more! - Why are women so emotional? | Answerbag.com
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Yes, I too have noticed that as I have got older I cry far more easily and sometimes over the most ridiculous things that would never have brought me to tears in the past, e.g. an episode of Forensic Detectives where a murder case was particularly sad to me. The strange thing is, that combined with this I realised some months ago I was having more dreams in my sleep, was needing far more sleep than normal (anything up to 12 hours a night) and was getting panicky about going to work. My short term memory also seemed to be getting really bad. I was finding that whenever I closed my eyes, or had no distractions, I was mentally reliving all the horrible past experiences I had been through in my life, bad relationships, bereavements, being bullied at school etc, plus all the day to day worries I currently had as well. It was if my brain had gone into overdrive and I simply couldn't switch it off. I went to my Doctor and he diagnosed me with depression, and told me I was apparently a text book case. I am now on mild anti-depressant daily, and although I am far from cured, things are more bearable than they were before. I wonder if you may be heading in the same direction and have simply not recognised it yet!
Thank you both for your comments. That's interesting, Misty, how you say that you think about past bad experiences... I was just thinking that I've been doing that a lot lately (although I don't have too much to look back on in my short life yet, thank goodness). I never really would have considered depression because everyone refers to me as a happy person, but who knows? No one is exempt. I should look into this... maybe some good Hubs...
I never truly considered myself as depressed at first either, and no-one would have guessed as I have always been a very smiley person and never really given away what was going on inside of me. Even my Husband and Parents had no idea and were quite shocked when it came out.
It is so interesting that there are others out there who feel the same way. I was once (two years ago or more) very solid, I had not worries, I would just worry about real problems right before solving them and almost nothing could affect me. My wife was actually jealous of me for not worrying about anything :) And if anything major happened, I would just play a strategy game and that would take my mind off stuff. Some bad stuff happened in my life which affected me deeply. I know it should not, but what are you gonna do. I refused to go to a doctor. I searched for ways for getting rid of that stuff and have been applying them for some time, and I believe they work. Here is a link for my methods: http://hubpages.com/hub/off-negative-emotions
after reading this I was like, dude I experiance these things all the time. I cry for almost anything. I could be watching a comercial and i start to cry. If someone expresses a certain emotion whether it be happiness or pain on tv i start to cry. I'm sleeping way too much lately, I even lost my job over this, I'm way past due on my bills but I just don't have the want to look for a job. That part about being unmotivated really rang a bell. I do feel like I need medical help but I don't want to be someone that has to be on medication just to be okay. I know i've been going through this for a while cause I used to be a cutter when I was younger. I just don't know how to go forward with this.
Thank you misty, rider, and sirilena for your comments and suggestions for others to read and benefit from. Sirilena, your situation sounds beyond my advice. It sounds like you should speak to someone who specializes in this.
I also get very emotional and cry very easily. I have always been a very nervous person since I was little and I always think the worst of myself. The last few years of my life have been extremely bad. I went through being laid off and getting separated after losing my home and many financial problems. I find myself waiting for the next thing to happen. I finally got a new job and I thought everything was going well until one day my boss screamed at me and made my cry. My co workers heard him and felt bad for me. They were embarrassed for me and even said something to my boss. Then another co worker who wasn't there on that day told me I made my boss feel uncomfortable after he made me cry and she told him it wasn't his fault and I am too emotional and always look for stuff to worry about. She said I need to be a big girl and play in the big girl sand box. She really gave it to me. What can I do to change this. Is something wrong with me?
I wouldn't say there's anything wrong with you. I don't know all of the facts behind this, but some people are more sensitive and a lot of people face many difficult situations in life that are hard to deal with. It sounds like you've had your share of trials, and I'm glad that you're willing to talk about it. Thanks for visiting, and feel free to share more whenever you feel the need!
so, get over it, shit happens
i don't like joker's comment. i also hate this crying all the time thinng. everytime someone says something rude or kinda mean my eyes start watering up! i hate thi! plus i don't want to be on meds either. even when in my mind i'm being tough my eyes ruin everything. i hate the fact that i might seem like this sort of whimpy weak person.
Thanks, babygirl. I didn't like joker's comment, either. I don't think you're being wimpy, and honestly, I feel overly emotional often! Who know why :)
I have all of those symptoms you guys are talking about,unmovitated, crying at stupid times, i actually cry instead of getting angry, my memory is horrible, i relive my past embarrassing or bad experiences, i get bored easily, I actually have been goin through this for years, almost 6 years and its been horrible. I'm really sick of it controlling my life and I just want to be happy. I dont want to be on pills either but if they help then I dont care anymore.
You know, I got into this blog after typing on Google: "Why I am too emotional". I read all the comments and related to most of then, as unmotivated, very emotional, can't seem to forgive and forget about things that happen in the past, very tired all the time ... But I don't think at all I am depressed. I can even assure. But I also don't know what is going on. I'm just saying that to also open another option for this symptoms... I am very happy with my life, friends, family and of course I have problems like everyone else. I have a good Job, that pays me fantastically. I have nothing to complain about my family. I love my husband. I am just tired, might even be hormonal since I am using an implant as birth control (for more then 1 year now) or maybe I need some vitamins. But after reading all the comments I'm still not convinced depression is the only answer. Just a thought...
mjones, I would also agree that depression is not the only culprit. It varies from person to person, I would say.
Kendra... You are not the only one!
Aging sure does affect your emotions, no doubt. Hormones, time and sense of loss with change, I think.
hey..me too; i find myself for crying over nothings..any emotion for me spells t-e-a-r-s :( donno why. They call me cry-baby at work. i work in the cust service deptt, customers tell me their problems and concerns (about their mobile phones) and i get teary eyed, its sooo embarrasing. i was never like this...wats wrong wid me....? i m 30, so shudnt be my age.. i have a happy family, so shudnt be dat too...my job is okay too...help!!
Me too - I only seem to cry at work. Never when I'm told off or anything, more so when I'm being praised or talking to someone else who's emotional. I have to keep blinking and look away and I'm often asked if I'm okay. It feels like it's ruining my career to be honest.
@mjones I am by no means an expert on the subject, but I don't think that depression can be attributed solely to people's situation in life (relationships, career, financial situation, etc). While depression can be brought on by major life events, some people's brains (for reasons we don't understand) just don't produce enough of the chemicals we need to be emotionally balanced. Or at least that is my understanding of depression.
Also, depression can be symptomatic of other problems too, no? Don't people with thyroid problems or other health issues get symptoms of depression as well? Only you know if something doesn't feel right physically or emotionally and both are equally important to living a healthy, happy life!
I too ended up at this blog because I was trying to master techniques to control my emotions. I am sure I am not depressed and, as I am in perimenopause, that this is, atleast partially to blame. I am a professional and, lately, I cry everytime I get stressed at work- it is sooo frustrating.
Anyway, you all seem too young to be experiencing my problem and I think you should consider consulting a physician. In addition to depression, there definitely could be other conditions affecting you including thyroid, anemia, b-12 deficiency or other vitamin deficiencies, etc.
There are also certain nutrients that can help control emotions, increase energy level and even improve one's outlook. Not all of these are what you might think, for example, women who perpetually diet often have b12 deficiencies because it comes from meat, chesse, milk, eggs etc.
I did learn of one technique for controlling emotions. When you feel yourself about to cry hold your breath for 6 seconds and then visualize yourself or someone you admire handling the situation in a more productive way. Ofcourse the purpose of this is to squash the act of crying, but not to alleviate the underlying feelings.
Good luck!
Thank you all for your comments! Old Mama, thanks for your care and for your advice. I appreciate that you have stopped by!
I am the same way I use to be so happy I used to be fun I mean I still am I guess but I'm not as happy as I use to be I don't know...I would say I guess I'm kinda depressed ..especially when it comes to my bf I cry at times just thinking of losing him haha I think maybe it could be from negative thoughts I have? Also things in my life arent going to well...
me too but the thing it i get mad and then a couple of minutes later i`ll be in waterfalls (crieing) but the only thing is....im nine,i cant control it though i just cant stop i think it might be horemones so.....idk but please give me an answer or i might be fighting with my mom forever if it hasnt already happened :'( im crieng now need tissue brb :(
I too have been very emotional..i am on the birthcontrol but im not quite sure if its that. Im only 18, i beleive in too young to be depressed and i do not want to be on medications for the rest of my life. Its horrible my boyfriend thinks im nuts when i tell him that i dont know why im crying or that ill cry for the most ridiculous reasons! Im so tired of this i feel like its ruining my relationship..please, i need advice..
Its the same I think I might be depressed.
I don't noe I cnt seem to wake my self up in the morning to get to skewl . I just thinking about something then I start crying r feel mad, lost there r so many emotions I cnt tell. I cnt remeber things like it take me time. I just keep worrying thinking ahead of time . I love to read books but somtimes it rip me up make me sad for weeks. I just don't wanna do anything at all . Everything hurts me .
I'm only 13 so its no birth control. I don't know what's up with me. I just know its not normal nd I need help
I have been undergone several breakup of relationships in the past. These keep on haunting me like anything. I now cry over the slightest of provocations. I feel that I am very weak these days.
Thank you all for your comments. If you feel that your depression is very serious or not normal, I would really encourage you to seek help. Sometimes schools will provide counselors whom you can talk to. There are also a lot of resources online or over the phone: for instance, http://www.mengetdepression.com/resources/.
Hey guys,
I am on depression medication and i went on it at 18, i am now 22 and things do get better in a matter of months after talking with your doctor and being prescribed medication i was on the road to recovery. alot of people you know have this condition it is nothing to be embaressed about. i do have a bofriend of 5 years, i have a wonderful job, going to university and live out of home.... anything is possible. I still get very emotional at times but you just need to rethink the situation your in and ask yourself am i the one being selfish or is there another way i can go about this. i have found that i have become very attached to my partner and he defenatly isnt an emotional person so i find it hard sometimes when i want a cuddle or i want him to stay at home instead of going out with friends, i have a cry then think your selfish he needs time without you sometimes.... i dunno what else to write but everyone has stresses and emotions just some people cant control them, i'm am proud to say i am one of those people :) hope i helped
Thank you very much for sharing your comments... I think it is helpful! Remember that you always have people on your side!
I am totally confused....Im so rubbish at dealing with other peoples emotions, especially when they cry. For me its so awkward and I so dont want to be there. But yet, when Im alone at home, I could be watching tv and I too start to dry over nothing...I dont understand it as Im normally a very angry person, which I am not proud of but I know myself...Ive noticed it happens more often these days...I do sometimes think of things I have done, choices I have made, could I have done things differently, would it have made a difference? Then I berate myself for dwelling on the things I cant change...Then I get worked up and start to cry...
So what do you do if all of these things are happening to you while you are on anti depressants? I've been on them for a long time now and have noticed myself becoming a basket case within the past couple months. What is wrong with me???? I cry over ridiculous things I never would have cried over before, I have zero energy, went from working out everyday to not at all. I have mood swings the whole shebang. I hate doctors because every one I've been to seemed to just guess what was wrong and send me on my way and I'm tired of that. I don't know what else to do. I'm 26 and a single parent. I don't have time for this
I too found this blog when searching for reasons for my crying. It is uplifting to see that other women have the same problems as me.
Just now a colleague made me cry even though he didn't say much at all and all hell broke loose. Everyone is asking me whether I am ok and this makes me cry again.... it's so embarassing and I hate it. This is the 4th time now that I started crying at work uncontrolably and I just don't know how to stop it.
Though I don't have any of the other symtoms so I doubt that it is drepression.
Good luck to all of you - I hope you get better!
I am exactly the same! Up until about a year ago I was a no nonsense, deal with it, up and at 'em sort of person who would DEAL with situations rather than stress over them. Recently I've been a total disaster. I cry at my own thoughts! I've had some pretty horrible things happen over the last few years but until now I've kept them tucked away in my brain somewhere and not thought about them and now it's like I can't STOP thinkin about them and I cry about them. I cry to the radio when a song comes on that is linked to a memory - even a happy one! I cry when I think of my wedding comnig up, I cry at the telly ...! it's weird! The other night I cried at NOTHING!! NOTHING!! My other alf was a bit like...er....! He;s also used to me being the strong one and the problem solver and now he's sort of lookng after me! I don't want to go to the doc either cos they are useless (in my experience). I've been on anti depressants before but only for IBS not depression. TBH they kinda messed me up and I came off them and decided to go the natural/herbal route which is working fine for me now as far as IBS goes. Now I'm wondering if I should be on them but am loathe to start that again. Argh! Above all I'm FRUSTRATED!! I also get the rage...then cry about it! Maybe I just need to burn off steam and exercise more. Who knows.
Thank you all for your comments. I have a co-worker who cries a lot, for good things and for bad, and after watching how she handles it, I see that it's not necessarily a bad thing - she is very in touch with her feelings, and it doesn't seem so bad. I guess it depends, and it can be inconvenient to need to carry tissues with you all the time... but consider that it can be a positive thing too :)
So I've read all the comments and relate to a lot but as far as depression I'm doubtful anyhow I only cry to my bf. He is amazing and handles everything calms but it is getting to be a hassle I cry at least 3 days a week multipke times a day. Over dumb stuff too. I have a good family andbjob I'm not sure why I am so emotional but it does tame a toll on me. Do you think a birth control pill or now having a serious bf could affect me this much?
Your story completely just described me perfectly. I've been wondering why am I so emotional all of a sudden. I too am known for being strong and never crying. I'm in college to be a detective! and now all of a sudden watching an episode of burn notice makes me cry. I cannot figure out what is going on. It feels like my hormones are just going crazy!
I am 51yrs old and very emotional lately.Example I took my car to the garage because of a manufacturing defect to the paintwork and they told me the warranty expired 2mths ago. I burst into tears, me a woman who would have handled this situation with ease.I am also compulsive and obsessive and everything must be done in a certain order otherwise I do it myself. I cannot rest until it is perfect or at least the way I want it done. My hands looked like wrinkled paper and feel sore.To top it all I woke up 3 days ago with coldsores on my lips and inside my nose. I feel terrible and tears are rolling as I am typing this. I am a woman in charge of my life, what is going on!!
Ayaruz, I had a similar experience where I went to the body shop to get my tires rotated, and they told me I needed additional work that would cost hundreds of dollars, and I started crying too!
i think if we women hav good friends/siblings/known who really understand us, do support us everythime during this period.even myself started experiencing PMS since few yrs n my friends make a gr8 support, we laugh n giggle all day.shoppin , hanging out, or simple get 2gathers make a gr8 mood elevator
OMG I have the exact same thing!I really had to smile when you said that thing about the Phantom of the Opera I never cried during sad movies my friends always saw me as a really down to earth person who doesn't gets emotional during a movie or a tv show. But the past year I cry during almost every movie I see. In some way it sucks because I always liked being the girl who is though and doesn't gets to emotionall over a movie or something else but on the other hand I think it's my way of releasing my stress and hormones. I'm a teenager you see so I think it might be the hormones =3 I just hope it will stop when I get older xD (i'm 15 and btw sorry for my bad english)
I also found this website after typing 'Why can't I control my emotions lately'. I can identify with so many things you said... I NEVER cried and was always the 'tough' one amongs my friends as well... very stable and never stressed. I didn't get mad, or sad, and definitely not depressed... I was always happy! But in the last 2 years... I cry at the drop of a hat. (I'm crying right now because I failed a very easy test for a job I really want... but I CANT STOP CRYING) I get angry SO easily - like even if I'm headed to a lineup and someone jumps in quickly before me - I'll be filled with fury, and want to tell them right off.... I don't, of course, but the fury will burn inside me until it just fades... but that can take hours. Movies, TV shows, news articles... sad things I've never before been so touched at I cry, and cry, and cry.... it's ridiculous. I should go to the doctor but honestly... I am absolutely against taking pills, and I can't afford a therapist. I don't know what's wrong with me but it's so tiring. Thank you for sharing your story.
Penny, thank you for sharing as well! I wish the best for you in the new year!
Good feelings can fight emotional mood swings. Start with caring for yourself, recognizing what good you can do for yourself and for others. Engage in spirituality, find community events to participate in, give freely and thank God for the smaller blessings. Soon this will become a bigger part of your life and you will see purpose of existence.
I've been through this myself. Tears for no apparent reason.
I came across a book which dealt with such things, and it had a stress check-list. Tick off all that apply, add up the appropriate numbers and see your score. It included questions like, "Have you moved house in the last year?" "Has your or your partner changed jobs in the last year?" "Have you had money troubles in the last year?" etc.
Apparently stress builds up and even if the causative event is over, the stress levels don't immediately fall back to normal. When I looked at my list, (had moved a couple of times, jobs and money changing a lot, plus a dozen other items), I was deep in the red-zone. Suddenly things made a lot more sense. That made it much easier, though I still had to do the work to clear my system, so to speak. (I moved away and into a small apartment by myself, no partner, no distractions, and a stable work situation. I also took up smoking, (organic tobacco. Never smoked before in my life. It was very helpful). About a year and a half later I re-emerged feeling stable and strong again. I stopped smoking and moved back into my old town and back into the social scene I missed. But now I'm careful to keep big stress events out of my life.
It struck me while reading through your responses that several of the posters here noted that "Difficult changes happened" in their lives as a precursor to their newly fragile emotions. Sounds very familiar.
Anyway. . , thank-you for sharing this blog and your experiences.
Cheers!
Thank you for that information and for sharing your experience! I'm glad that things are working better for you.
Wow I'm not alone.
Ive always been known as bubbly, happy go lucky, friendly, nice Sammy. Very independent and stubborn hehehe, but gradually in the past 3 years I've been spiraling in a downwards manner. Especially he last 6 months my emotions have been all over the place, iv never cried so much in my life, it's crazy. Alot of crappy things have happen in my life in the past 5 years, but I feel bad when these things upset me because I think theres so many people worse of and can still be happy and jot sad and cry this much. I am seriously a big ball of mess at the moment and I can feel breaking point coming, I'm just so lost and tired though, I'm not sure where to start or how.
Lol lol lol someone please pick me up frm off the floor from lol!!! Yall have no idea what horrible day im having today and truely for the last 6 years!!!! Its funny because finally I feel a whole lot better for crying over stupid stupid things!! I sometimes make up things in my head like a movie and cry over that so we all have embarrasing stories lol. In the past u cldnt make me cry, I use to be sooo strong but now im sooo weak and now I cant control being unhappy when in the past I was the one that everybody enjoyed to be around. I want my life back n iv tried over n over again but keep falling n2 this sad stage. This is not who I am at all!!! And surely I dont wana take meds!! I want my natural happy strong self back!! Thanks for listening :)
I loved reading what other people have to say. But I still feel like I need to hear from other people.. I have a boyfriend that lives 800 miles away from me and we can barely ever see each other yet because we're still in school. I've also come to realize my periods are getting worse and worse and I always feel like crying or not interested in doing anything anymore and I always wanna just go to bed and sleep for days. I don't know if that's because of my periods or maybe it's depression.
I totally feel the same way you guys! At first i was never emotional at movies too and would find it peculiar if i spotted from the corner of my eye my mom crying at a film. For the past couple of years i find myself getting more and more emotional and falling asleep all the time when i'm emotionally stressed to the max. It's so strange and i know i have things to do during the day but i just want to sleep most of the time. When it comes to being emotionally stressed, this always occurs whenever i have an argument (a massive argument) with my mom. My mom's my rock but whenever we argue and she tells me off i don't instantly start crying but i just feel like sleeping for days on end, however i end up crying alone and then falling asleep. Any idea why that can happen guys?
I also found this website when I typed in "psychological services - crying uncontrollably" I've just started CBT but couldn't go tonight as was too fragile (with snot running out of every facial orifice!)
What I find interesting is that a lot of people here seem to be women who are intelligent & articulate, have passion, good communication skills, sensitive, a sense of humour about it and actively seeking answers.
I identify.
It's just nice to know that I am not alone.
But I have not got any answers.
I have always strived to do my best despite family difficulties when I was a teenager, (but I remember getting upset as early as infant school & hyperventilating, being diagnosed by the doctor as being hyper on sweets with e-numbers & to avoid them).
Last year I lost my job because I cried nearly every day (even though I hadn't been on sweets / birth control pills and have no serious problems). I did councelling through work & the councellor just agreed that it was stressful in my field and I worked with imature bitches, (councelling reminds me of the part in Crocodile Dundee when he is at a party and a woman tells him she is in therapy and he said "What? havn't you got any friends?")! I turned up every day at that job knowing that I was 90% likely to cry & feel humilliated but thought I would get through it and get stronger but they still fired me.
I think councelling works for some people, perhaps even medication but as a Christian I feel as though I should talk to God about it, have more faith and every day just try to keep balanced & find natural anti-depressants. Life is a roller coaster - without the downs you can't have the ups!
thanxx for u guys inspirational wordss..my project was succesful
Thank you all for your comments and for stopping by. You are not alone and take comfort in the words of others who are going through the same things!
Well, I don't get periods, thankfully and hope I never do cause I'm a guy! However, I have been extremely over emotional now for a couple of years and don't know what is going on. I was the type of guy that every body thought was trying to be macho and tough but the truth was that I was desensitized to a lot and had very little emotions. It even earned me a reputation of being a cold dude. Lately I've been so over emotional that I get teary eyed over TV shows and other stuff even though I tell myself that it's just TV fiction. I get sad over a lot of things and get choked up a lot even seems like the bass in my voice is gone. I'm 37 years old by the way, I've been through a lot and seen a lot. I've always had a soft spot for kids and the elderly but now it's like I'm practically crying over everything! I know it's ok for a guy to be somewhat sensitive but in my case it's become ridiculously dire. I wish I was like before and cared less about stuff that didn't directly involve me. Sometimes I just want a hug and I'll grab one of my little boys and almost squeeze him to death. It seems like every poster on here is a girl. Am I turning into a girl? I'd make one hideous looking girl!
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My doctor once explained to me that the serotonin levels in your brain has a lot to do with your mood swings and PMS. If the crying really bothers you, you might need help (as in if you are depressed, unmotivated, etc.). Otherwise, just keep a box of tissue handy and have a good laugh about it later =).